Author Laura Lentz said healing from her husband’s infidelity meant more than saving their marriage — it meant finding her own voice again.
“I had to come to a place in my healing journey where I was able to say if this happens again I will be okay,” she told television host Tamron Hall. Her answer centered on the work she had done on herself, not a guarantee that she would never face another betrayal.
Laura and her husband, former Hillsong NYC lead pastor Carl Lentz, discussed that difficult rebuilding process in an interview released Oct. 28 on the TAMRON HALL SHOW. The couple discussed their book, Overcoming Infidelity: 10 Conversations to Help You Heal the Hurt, and the changes they say have strengthened their relationship.
Hall did not let the conversation stay comfortably on the other side of the crisis. She asked Laura whether she had confronted the possibility that Carl could be unfaithful again.
Laura said that question had surfaced for years and still returned occasionally. She explained that betrayal had damaged her confidence, and that reclaiming her voice had taken hard work.
The exchange brought a hard question into an otherwise hopeful conversation about becoming stronger as a couple. Laura did not say the possibility had stopped crossing her mind; she explained how she had worked to become stronger herself.
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The couple’s public life changed after Hillsong terminated Carl’s employment in November 2020. In a statement provided directly to CBN News, the church cited leadership issues, breaches of trust and moral failures.
Now, the Lentzes are sharing their account of rebuilding a marriage after infidelity. Their publisher describes the book as a guide through 10 conversations, including how to approach trust, speak with children and face lingering hurt.
Hall had opened the segment with the book’s final conversation, which asks whether a couple can emerge stronger after betrayal. Carl said discussing what that might look like could help spouses begin to see a way forward.
He traced betrayal back to choices that precede an affair: lying to oneself, hiding and keeping secrets. Removing those barriers, he said, could allow spouses to see each other again and find a different rhythm in their relationship.
Hall also asked him how he understood his identity as a spiritual leader after moving from a highly visible pastorate to a smaller public footprint. Carl described himself as healing and secure, and attributed the reach of his work to God’s favor rather than something he could control.
But Hall’s question went beyond numbers. She wanted to know about his confidence that God could still use him to help people.
Carl said he intended to keep helping others even if the form of that work changed. When he explained what he could not live without, he named his wife and children.
“They will never be in jeopardy again,” Carl said.
That was his commitment; Laura’s earlier answer acknowledged the uncertainty she had already had to confront. Together, their responses brought the conversation back from public influence to the people closest to them — and to the personal work they say rebuilding has required.
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